Hey Ibanezjunkie.......I sent your "problem" to my 22 yr old daughter, Baby Cobra (who has ear stretchers herself

), and she responded. Here ya go, good luck.......
"Ahem. Here is the solution!
One: Do NOT remove the jewelry until the stretch is fully healed. Removing the jewelry irritates the healing skin and makes it much harder to heal. The best rule of thumb is to not touch the jewelry for at least two weeks after a stretch.
Two: Do NOT wash a stretch with soap. Soap dries out skin, which makes it less elastic and, once again, makes it harder to heal. The general act of touching a stretched area while it’s still healing greatly interferes with the healing process. If the area gets wet or soapy in the shower, that’s fine, but you shouldn’t try and purposely wash it.
If, for some reason, there is gunk around the stretch (there SHOULD NOT BE), you can lightly wipe it away with a cotton swab soaked with warm water. Make sure to keep the jewelry in while doing this.
A stretched area should be massaged every few days with oil after it’s healed. Vitamin E oil, jojoba oil, emu oil, and extra virgin olive oil are all good choices. (Many of these are available through professional piercing studios and online merchants.) Simply put a little oil on your fingers and rub the area in a circular motion. Keep the jewelry in unless the area is fully healed (no more redness in any part of your ear, including the inside of the piercing.)
Some people are very sensitive to Nitrile, which is what black o-rings are made of. They can cause your ear to peel, flake, or even turn red. Usually, the irritation is only on the outside of your ear. In this case, switch to silicone o-rings, which are much gentler to sensitive skin. (These are available through online merchants.)
If there is puss, blood or general fluid weeping from the stretch, you did something VERY wrong. There is probably a tear inside your ear. Usually, this indicates that you stretched too soon. (You should wait at least three months between stretches over 8mm, or 0g. Six months is better.) If the stretch hurt more than a pinch and stayed sore or red for more than 12 hours, you stretched too soon.
If you stretched your ears too quickly, you should downsize by removing the jewelry and leaving your ear free for a few hours or even overnight. Then, place in jewelry one to two sizes smaller. (So, in your case 00g or even 0g.) Leave this jewelry in for three to six months before attempting to stretch again.
If you stretched directly from 0g to 000g, you stretched a full two millimeters. The recommended stretch is only one millimeter. Finding 00g jewelry (9mm) can be a little tricky, but it can be done. A lot of online glass merchants carry that size. It’s a little more expensive, but some websites have sales. Glass is also very beautiful and its smooth surface helps to prevent rippling in the ear as it heals. Dealers in the UK also sell the 9mm size in steel.
Good body jewelry supply sites:
http://www.bodyartforms.com
http://steelnavel.com
http://www.bodyjewelleryshop.com (UK site)"